To all, thanks for the responses, serious and not.
I manage to get some info from a friend of a friend. I'm still confused about the circumstances as the info I have received has been inconsistent, and much of it doesn't add up. Today is the arraignment, which is taking place in New York, and more will be known tonight. The kids mom and aunt went up to deal with it. From what I was able to get things don't look real good for her.
Ah to be young and stupid.
Adam, thanks for the offer, but as you can see from above things are already past the advice stage. Thanks again.
MikeC, That sounds like a plan, better than mine anyhow.
Thanks again all.