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<blockquote data-quote="Thomas Rogers" data-source="post: 845570" data-attributes="member: 60724"><p>TrainTrac said: </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>It all depends on the offense. This kid's offense is getting bad grades. Parents, IMHO, shouldn't <em>punish children for bad grades</em> but should instead <em>inspire, motivate and guide children to get good grades.</em></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Take my kids for example. They are expected to get good grades. They understand the importance of getting good grades. When they don't get the grades that they we and they know they can (for example, if they get a C when they could have gotten a B, or a B when they could have gotten an A) then we work with them to understand why, and fix the problem. Sometimes the problem is distractions. When that is the problem, we help them by removing distractions (video games, TV, etc). Is that a punishment? Some might say so.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>If I had a child the wet the bed, I wouldn't put their pee-soaked and stained sheets out on the front lawn to dry and for the neighbors to see in hopes that it might "shame" my child into changed behavior. No. Instead, I would help them to overcome their issue.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Shame and humiliation are not good motivators to be used by a parent.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Now, a judge, and a crime...I have little compassion for the criminal.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I guess that's the difference, TrainTrac. Parents owe their children (not the other way around) a good, cultivating up-bringing, complete with compassion, love and guidance. Humilation and shame have little purpose in the parental responsibility.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>TJR</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Thomas Rogers, post: 845570, member: 60724"] TrainTrac said: It all depends on the offense. This kid's offense is getting bad grades. Parents, IMHO, shouldn't [i]punish children for bad grades[/i] but should instead [i]inspire, motivate and guide children to get good grades.[/i] Take my kids for example. They are expected to get good grades. They understand the importance of getting good grades. When they don't get the grades that they we and they know they can (for example, if they get a C when they could have gotten a B, or a B when they could have gotten an A) then we work with them to understand why, and fix the problem. Sometimes the problem is distractions. When that is the problem, we help them by removing distractions (video games, TV, etc). Is that a punishment? Some might say so. If I had a child the wet the bed, I wouldn't put their pee-soaked and stained sheets out on the front lawn to dry and for the neighbors to see in hopes that it might "shame" my child into changed behavior. No. Instead, I would help them to overcome their issue. Shame and humiliation are not good motivators to be used by a parent. Now, a judge, and a crime...I have little compassion for the criminal. I guess that's the difference, TrainTrac. Parents owe their children (not the other way around) a good, cultivating up-bringing, complete with compassion, love and guidance. Humilation and shame have little purpose in the parental responsibility. TJR [/QUOTE]
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