Fudged Undies
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Summary if you don't want to read it all: House guest doesn't want/refuses to leave. Be careful they have more rights than you think. Yes you can make a contract but IMO you're better off avoiding the situation.
Never seems to amaze me how selfish and inconsiderate people can be. A friend of my g/f's came down from Maryland to work (she's an agency nurse, doesn't work directly for a hospital) she said work was difficult up there and she needed to make money. My g/f asked me if she could stay with us, and I agreed to a month. Somehow my g/f told her two and though I thought that was too long I let it slide(the guest wanted to stay six) . Well it's been two month's and this women doesn't seem to be leaving. She does give us $100 a week but that was her choice we didn't ask her for anything as it was a favor and we would have to pay whether she was there or not.
She said she was coming down to work but on average she has only worked two days a week(12 hour shifts). This really irks me since I HAVE to work and everyday at that. She's always here watching the only tv we have with cable. Major problem for me since I need/want my stupid box to relax when I get home and we really don't have similar viewing interests.
I/we have plenty of annoyances with her, including no help cleaning the house and cigarette/medicinal cigarette issues among them, but will avoid them to keep this somewhat brief(though not quite).
Though as typical for a guest, she has become something of a mooch. She buys groceries but pretty much petty stuff and I and the g/f avoid the things she buys. I specifically do because I don't like to eat other peoples food. Just a habbit I guess but she has had no problem eating much of what we buy. Not a huge deal but it gets rough when your looking for something and it's already been eaten. She has also used a large quantity of our duracel battery stash for her personal use while denying she has(20+ AA's) all without asking.
We decided to find out what her plan was as far as when she was leaving. She stated sometime in May. My g/f puts on the brakes and says that wasn't our agreement however the guest insists that it was and moreover state we have to give her a month to find some place else to go (un-freaken-believable). Naturally, that wasn't going to happen. Anyhow, I told my g/f to blame everything on me and that I wanted her out, so she would avoid any headaches with her, just in case. We discussed it last night while the guest was working and I decided to stay home today, confront her and get her out.
I confront her and she pretty much denies everything that had been agreed to and that the agreement was for 3 months. Everything I questioned her on it turned out I and g/f were completely mistaken and we were apparently liars and she was a victim of us making stuff up. This story goes on for a bit but the short of it is, she tells me she's not leaving until Sunday since she has to work tonight and tomorrow night. I'm in awe, this woman has some big BIG grapefruits. I made it very clear that she was leaving today either on her own or with my help ( to be clear this was not a threat- she was either going to pack her stuff and go or I was going to pack it up when she went to work and drop it off at the hospital when she got off). I truly feel crappy about all this but I'm certain had I given her notice she would have made no effort to leave and when that day came we would be back at square one.
Ultimately, my g/f and a co-worker came and it was worked out. I'm sure there will be sour grapes and I can understand but how do people renig on what amount to a favor and basically call you a liar. She's a "good christian woman" but this hasn't impressed me in the least about "good christians." I'm beginning to wonder if she doesn't have a chemical imbalance due to all the denial and flat out lying. In my life I never thought I would have to be such a jerk o
Never seems to amaze me how selfish and inconsiderate people can be. A friend of my g/f's came down from Maryland to work (she's an agency nurse, doesn't work directly for a hospital) she said work was difficult up there and she needed to make money. My g/f asked me if she could stay with us, and I agreed to a month. Somehow my g/f told her two and though I thought that was too long I let it slide(the guest wanted to stay six) . Well it's been two month's and this women doesn't seem to be leaving. She does give us $100 a week but that was her choice we didn't ask her for anything as it was a favor and we would have to pay whether she was there or not.
She said she was coming down to work but on average she has only worked two days a week(12 hour shifts). This really irks me since I HAVE to work and everyday at that. She's always here watching the only tv we have with cable. Major problem for me since I need/want my stupid box to relax when I get home and we really don't have similar viewing interests.
I/we have plenty of annoyances with her, including no help cleaning the house and cigarette/medicinal cigarette issues among them, but will avoid them to keep this somewhat brief(though not quite).
Though as typical for a guest, she has become something of a mooch. She buys groceries but pretty much petty stuff and I and the g/f avoid the things she buys. I specifically do because I don't like to eat other peoples food. Just a habbit I guess but she has had no problem eating much of what we buy. Not a huge deal but it gets rough when your looking for something and it's already been eaten. She has also used a large quantity of our duracel battery stash for her personal use while denying she has(20+ AA's) all without asking.
We decided to find out what her plan was as far as when she was leaving. She stated sometime in May. My g/f puts on the brakes and says that wasn't our agreement however the guest insists that it was and moreover state we have to give her a month to find some place else to go (un-freaken-believable). Naturally, that wasn't going to happen. Anyhow, I told my g/f to blame everything on me and that I wanted her out, so she would avoid any headaches with her, just in case. We discussed it last night while the guest was working and I decided to stay home today, confront her and get her out.
I confront her and she pretty much denies everything that had been agreed to and that the agreement was for 3 months. Everything I questioned her on it turned out I and g/f were completely mistaken and we were apparently liars and she was a victim of us making stuff up. This story goes on for a bit but the short of it is, she tells me she's not leaving until Sunday since she has to work tonight and tomorrow night. I'm in awe, this woman has some big BIG grapefruits. I made it very clear that she was leaving today either on her own or with my help ( to be clear this was not a threat- she was either going to pack her stuff and go or I was going to pack it up when she went to work and drop it off at the hospital when she got off). I truly feel crappy about all this but I'm certain had I given her notice she would have made no effort to leave and when that day came we would be back at square one.
Ultimately, my g/f and a co-worker came and it was worked out. I'm sure there will be sour grapes and I can understand but how do people renig on what amount to a favor and basically call you a liar. She's a "good christian woman" but this hasn't impressed me in the least about "good christians." I'm beginning to wonder if she doesn't have a chemical imbalance due to all the denial and flat out lying. In my life I never thought I would have to be such a jerk o
