Jim Johnson
Active Member
Human nature, I think. In my experience, most people who ask for advice just want you to validate the decision they've already made.
Years ago, my brother-in-law asked my advice about a used car. After looking at it for him, I advised him not to buy it, due to a couple obvious problems specific to that car as well as a well-known design problem with that model. He bought it anyway, then started pestering me for advice every time the car had a problem (which was often). After the 2nd or third time, I told him to quit calling me and to call instead the dealership which sold it to him. After all, he got in this mess by ignoring my advice -- <I>which he asked for</I> -- in favor of theirs. He wasn't too happy with me for awhile (he eventually got over it), and he was stuck with the constant repairs to that piece of junk for a few years.
Years ago, my brother-in-law asked my advice about a used car. After looking at it for him, I advised him not to buy it, due to a couple obvious problems specific to that car as well as a well-known design problem with that model. He bought it anyway, then started pestering me for advice every time the car had a problem (which was often). After the 2nd or third time, I told him to quit calling me and to call instead the dealership which sold it to him. After all, he got in this mess by ignoring my advice -- <I>which he asked for</I> -- in favor of theirs. He wasn't too happy with me for awhile (he eventually got over it), and he was stuck with the constant repairs to that piece of junk for a few years.