Relationship problem! anyone ever been DUMPED before? How did you survice and get over it?

[Andrew N]

Friends,

This is weird to ask, but I just thought I needed some advice. My girlfriend of two years just dumped me today. she didnt tell me the cause of the break up! But Im trying to find an answer by texting and calling but she basically ignored me.and did not answer my text messages. I did however, found out from her friend(which is my friend also) that shes out having fun. Should I keep trying or should I move on? How do I deal break up since I dont like to be alon. Your advice is greatly appreciated.

Thank You

Andrew

 

[Kevin Palmer]

Andrew Andrew Andrew....



I think you will find that most of us have been there.



It is a painful experience. Very painful in some cases. You will get through it. We all have thus far. I have been married for 21 years and was with my wife for about 4 years before that. Before her I went through a few relationships. Love takes time my friend.



So give it time, don't jump right into another relationship on the re-bound. You need to heal first.....

 

[Gerald Pierce]

more than a dump truck, my friend. Been married for 22 years now... you will find the one...

 

[Kevin Palmer]

Andrew,

from others experience. I would suggest you stop texting and what not. If she was going to give you an answer she would have done so by now. That is not to say she won't at a later time, but tonight is not the night from what I gather.





It will be hard. No matter what the reason. Even if she was to have cheated on you and you were the one that broke it off. The fact remains you care, cared, and still care. You are wounded and need time to heal. Even if you two get back to gather you don;t want it to be because you pressured her. Let her relax a bit and see if she comes back to you to talk to you about it.



If not, then it was not meant to be at this time....



Funny, but when you are not looking for love/relation ship, it will find you....

 

[FlipTrac_511]

Don't wallow in it. Enjoy your single life. Go out and socialize while you get things behind you. The "one" will happen by, so don't force it. But you must make yourself available. Lots of fish out there. Be the bait.

 

[Ron Duckworth]

Andrew,



Hey man, all will be ok.



First, don't call, don't text. PERIOD! Do not do this. If you do this, she will realize she can come back whenever, dump on you again...whenever.......come back......dump again.....come back...........it will be a vicious, painful cycle.



Go out with your guy friends, play poker, go to the movies. Don't go out looking for "babes", just go out and be with friends.



I am 34, been married now 11 years, got 3 kids. I had my heart broke a few times, WIDE OPEN, then.....one day.....while in a grocery store.....BAM!!! I met my wife.



I do want to stress to not call her anymore. She knows your number, when she's ready to talk, she will. Do Not!! become her "Fall Back On"......that my friend is a painful god forsaken place no man wants to visit.



It'll all be good.....with time.....in the mean time....you got us





Ron

 

[Ron Duckworth]

 

[Gavin Allan]

Ditto what the others have said. They were right on.



Now, go clean and wash your dependable "girl": your SportTrac! Find something to do to take your mind off your pain. Go help someone. Volunteer your time. Just don't veg out and hide.



You will probably waste lots of time trying to think up the reason why it happened. There may not even be a good reason. Over time, you will accept it, heal, and move on.



You are feeling bad right now. That is normal.



Call an old friend.

 

[Tom Schindler]

Before you will ever be truly happy with another person, you need to enjoy being alone. I am not saying for you to lock yourself in your hose and be a hermit. You need to be happy with who you are. Discvover who you are. Find out for yourself what you really want. Once you find that out, you will realize how much of a blessing he leaving you really was.



If she comes around for a "booty call", do not do it. As much as you would want to, DON'T!!! It will only stir up emotions you don't need.



I have been through it many times. It hurts, but imagine a life with a person that doesn't love or respect you.



Hang in there dude, you will get over her. The "replacement" (and I don't mean it in a bad way, I am saying a new love) will be so much better then the ex ever was, or even could be.





Tom

 

[Lauren Y]

Hey-



It happens to all of us. Don't get roped into her game. You should have better things to do than worry about it. I know you hurt and you deserve to know why. She obviously did not want to take the time to tell you and frankly-after two years you deserve to know. What kind of a friend is that? Were you the only one in the relationship? It seems that way if she cannot explain why her feelings all of a sudden changed. I feel really bad for you and things like this happen way too often. She obviously is not mature enough to handle a serious relationship. Don't take it to heart and blame yourself for anything. Find someone who wants a relationship and who is mature enough to handle it. Some people are only in relationships because they do not want to be alone. You say you do not like to be alone but maybe you should be for a little while. Being alone never hurt anyone and you will probably find out what you really want and need out of a relationship. You are going to have to ask yourself what you can put up with and cannot put up with, and DO NOT SELL YOURSELF SHORT BY ANY MEANS. Listen to what the guys say up above-leave her alone-you are only hurting yourself by calling, etc. You don't need to be a yo-yo.

Best of luck to you-you will be fine.



Lauren

 

[brandon mena]

It happens to everyone bro. It hurts like hell and all you want is the same thing back but it never works. One it's gone just move on. Have your fun for awhile too. I just went through a stage where I gave up and decided to go out and be by myself for the first time in years and after half a year I met the perfect girl out of nowhere. Just learn from it and go on. I have some real nightamre stories if you want to hear em' but comparing misery dosen't do much. Just be alone for awhile and enjoy life. When your totally happy with your life and yourself alone, then your ready to share it with another person. Best of luck bro.



Wow, I posted before looking at the replies but after reading everyone elses post I see that this is the way it works. Kinda tells you something aye Andrew? Listen man I'm tellin' ya the truth.

 

[Mike Wilson]

Andrew... I agree wholeheartedly with Ron. I went through it twice, and did exactly

what Ron said not to do. Only I had to marry the same woman TWICE to learn the

lesson. I wasn't perfect, but a good, decent guy, and thats what she wanted to

fall back on (good job,insurance,good reputation) when she was done with her

"bad boy flings". And like you, I don't like to be alone, hate it as a matter of fact.

I enjoy sharing my life with someone. The good, bad, and in-between! Have someone

that you can be there for when they are weak, and someone that can be there

for you when you are weak. That's what it's all about. That's my current wife Trish

(7 year anniversary 8-21-05), and wouldn't trade her for the world, OR my 'Trac.

Yes, you read that right, OR my 'Trac!!! And the part about finding love, or it

finding you when you least expect it is textbook truth!:wub:

 

[Nelson Atwell]

I was dumped several times before I got married at 25. I was like you, I hated to be alone. When I finally was married, I married too soon, and chose the wrong person. Tell you what, after 10 years living with my ex, I am happy to have been alone most of the past eight years. Count yourself lucky that she dumped you now, rather than later. Go on and find the one you are meant to be with.

 

[Greg L]

Dude - better now than after marrage and kids.



Just realize that it happens to anyone that actually falls in love - it's also part of lifes experiences that SUCKS but also makes you appreciate life in the long run.



Others have said to just go out - if your anything like me, you don't want to go out cause every time you see anyone, it will remind you of her......heck, I'm on my second wife and at times I still miss the first one (she told me that she found her soal mate and left me).



Don't try to fool yourself of saying BS like "what kind of relationship could it have been if she won't even talk to me" - only you know what kind it was.



LIFE SUCKS at times......the only thing that got me through it when it happen to me is realizing that it does happen to EVERYONE!!!!!



You have only 2 options:

1. Sooner or later you will get over it - well maybe not get over it but you will come to accept it.

2. Die - this will prove absolutely nothing so don't be stupid.



And we all know that you don't really want to kill the bitch - you want some explainations but as Lauren said "you are just hurting yourself"........now go wash the baby!

 

[Johnny O]

A relationship takes two. She didn't want that any more, for whatever reason. Don't call, don't text, don't email. It'll just make YOU feel worse when she doesn't respond. It also makes it look like you're begging, and women hate that.

Been there, done that. I can't really add anything to the good advice already posted.

Good info is at Sharpman.com.

 

[Fred]

Just be glad she did it now instead of after/if you got married. Much cheaper now.

 

[WXMotorSports DecalsPartsAccs]

Walk away...you get back together with her she will just do it again.



And, don't stalk her...LOL



Detail the Trac and enjoy her being free from her (the ex)



Thanks,

SST!

 

[Buck Henry]

My advice..... drink heavily.

 

[Thomas Rogers]

I say you go out, you find a girl that looks just like her, you date for a while, then you dump her!



Oh, and Dano just called, he said take this to the jilted lovers website. ;-)



TJR

 

[buzz worth]

Get a dog. Seriously !



Then take that dog for long walks in the park. Dogs are babe magnets.....well, some dogs.



Chances are if you get a slasher, you'll regret it. (dog or girl)



buzz