What have you done to convince your wife to let you get something??

[A1cntrler]

Good idea Scootch... I'd liketo have the time to do that, however these things tend to go pretty quickly. And grump, I'd really hate to give her that option... Who knows what she would take! lol. Fast Eddie- I never really had a love for the VW. It was just a ride to and from school and where ever else I needed to go. I got sucked into it because I worked at a shop the restored VW's, so I figured why not.. Once I was away from the Vdub scene for a while, I lost any love I may have had.



I think I'll try the shower her with kindness approach.. Has worked for other things..

 

[Tom Schindler]

I am new to this married thing, so I can't comment on that, but I can comment on my parents.



Dad did not spend money on useless stuff, so when Dad wanted something nice or expensive, Mom was OK with it.



Mom was the same as Dad and when she wanted someting nice or expensive, Dad never questioned her about it.



I am fortunate enough to have married a woman who was raised the same way and plan on being that way with my wife.



Worked good for 37+ years together with my parents and 50 years with hers.





Tom

 

[Ryan Schaecher]

Do you have any kids that are "older" (say 7 or older) that may be interested in helping you and could convice her that it would be a "bonding" experience?



Maybe a "his" and "hers" SC?



Is there a "honey do" project on the house that she's really wanted that could be a trade?



Really it's simple to me... VW=German, SC=American Muscle. Testosterone. After being a "stay at home dad", you need a shot of that every once in a while.... my wife is a stay at home mom and she 'needs' to do the woman thing every once in a while (see SHOPPING).



The excus... uh reasons could go on for a while.

 

[Jeff Geist]

Make a deal with her. If she's worried that it will just sit and rot...tell her if i don't have this thing up an running in one year, that you will sell it. If you get a good deal on a classic, you likely won't lose much money over the period of a year. If she's taking the why do you need this car approach...let her know this is something you've wanted to do for quite some time and would appreciate her support on something you'd really like. If you don't ask for much...tell her you don't ask for much. (BEWARE!!! if you have asked for things in the past decade...they will remember) You're a stay a home dad so you need some time for yourself. She's might be thinking this is an impulse purchase so maybe it will take some time (months) to remind her this is something you want to do.



I've been telling my wife for the five years that we've been married that I want a motorcycle. I haven't gotten it yet but in time, when I'm ready (I really mean when we're ready) to make the purchase, she won't be surprised.



I'm not a big fan of doing something and then asking for forgiveness.

 

[A1cntrler]

I think she is starting to crack...today she asked me to tell her about the car. I sounded like Ralphie after Santa kicked him down the slide at Higbee's asking for a Red Ryber bb gun...

 

[tom prudhomme]

I sounded like Ralphie after Santa kicked him down the slide

hope your wife doesn't wear heels...

 

[Nelson Atwell]

I used to just buy it...I was the only one that worked anyway. That's probably one reason I have been single the past nine years.

 

[buzz worth]

Just buy your wife a new washing machine or stove. you might as well make this a story that you'll NEVER hear the end of.

 

[A1cntrler]

I did buy her a dishwasher the 1st Christmas we were married. We have had 8 Christmas' more since then and I learned my lesson that first time... Househole appliances are a no no....

 

[Gavin Allan]

I agree with Tom. Why do you think you have to convince your wife to let you get something?



My wife and I both work hard for our money. We both spend it on things that we see fit. Why would we have to ask each other "permission"?



I bought my SportTrac and then called her to tell her I was coming to have her sign the paperwork (then I took her out to a very nice dinner). I didn't ask her permission to buy the Trac.



She bought her Jeep and asked me to come sign the paperwork. She didn't ask my permission either.



I bought a John Deere Garden Tractor last summer. She bought new furniture for the livingroom. We might ask each other for their opinion or to help select something if we aren't sure, but we don't beg for permission.



We trust and respect each other. We both are also smart enough to not buy something that we can't afford. Other than our car payments and home mortgage, we have no other debt. We owe less than half of what we purchased our stuff for.