Caymen,
I just did a string search on this thread. The only time "nasty" was used, was by you. I didn't give them a nasty look.
I simply said that I gave a sympathetic (hey, you married the guy) look to his wife. That's all I said. Never showed any malice, never showed any negative look.
You are right, I don't know the full story. Caymen, you have shown in the past that you are not one to look at things as gray, but black and white. People get fired over breaking a rule, once, period. Well we have societal rules, norms so to speak. I feel rather black and white on this particular societal rule. This guy was at school, with kids. It wouldn't hurt him to say the pledge and set a good example. The rule is to say the pledge. Some would say that he WAS setting a good example by showing the kids that it is okay NOT to say the pledge, that it is okay to stand up for onesself. I can see and appreciate that opinion, though, for this example, I wouldn't agree with it in practice. If he wants to have such a crusade, such a cause, make such a stand, then by all means, go ahead, but there are better times and places. for that.
As for a baseball game...that's a different time and place. There are all sorts of ahole things I or my kids see at a baseball game. I can expect as a parent to have to "undo" or "explain" some of the things observed at a game to my kids. Not so at school though. Say the pledge, really simple, that's the rule. Or don't. Also really simple. If you aren't going to, well, then maybe your wife should know you are not going to and make sure that a scene isn't made, to the extent that one was (not a big one, btw, it just amused me).
As for whether I thought, or really did a gesture, well that is a good question. Whatever outward appearance and "look" I gave, I am sure it was subtle. It was all I wished to muster at that time and I probably should have added that qualifier above. The lady in an animated fashion took her husband's hand and slammed it over his chest, while sighing, and at the same time catching my eyes, giving me that "oh, this guy is a pain" look. The look I shot back was half shrug, half "oh well" (or is that the same). Either way, it was subtle, as it wasn't a huge deal to me...but it certainly was to her.
I felt then the guy was a disrepectful, poor judgment having, poor example providing excuse for a dad. Such was my opinion, I've voiced it here, not there (and not showed it there), and did not follow up with any real actions to in any way make this a crusade to stop this guy, or guys like him.
If you want to wear inappropriate garb and strap on weapons when going to elementary school, go ahead. If you want to do your little outward displays of defiance to authority while in elementary school for all impressionable kids to see, well, again, go ahead. In the meantime, if you or anyone else does these things, and causes a scene (with even at least one other person...in this case, the guy's wife), well then don't be surprised if there are people around you that think of you, as Karl Pilkington says, as "a knob-head!"
So, in my mind, I was judgemental, assuming, and I guess you could say "intolerent" in my thoughts and opinions.
What USED to be great about this country, is that there was a time when that sort of intolerence and judgmentalism pretty much stayed in ones head, or was discussed around the water cooler (the Internet is just the virtual equivalent of that). Through informal discussions, people would kind of recognize that certain behaviors are probably not that acceptable, and that maybe its just better and easier to try to get along, act accordingly. But, today, so many seem to want to make it there personal mission to STOP the OTHER GUY, to prevent, to silence, etc, and they have TV shows, and lawyers, and special interest groups, and even the law on their side, as their weapon.
We've largely changed from a nation that would shrug and look the other way, getting on with our lives in the process, to a nation that IS confrontational and oh so "in your face", "stop that", "I can't stand that", the cameras are rolling, "this is my lawyer" group of people.
TJR