Richard L,
As an engineer I don't tend to concern myself with subtle implications, inferences, or conclusions that people might draw from what is specifically stated that might in turn be deemed as disrespectful, hurtful, etc.
As an engineer and as someone who considers himself a deliberate communicator, I moreso concern myself with what I and others actually, specifically say and what I can directly take as their meaning from what is said.
People can SAY things specifically that are disrespectful. For example, saying something like:
"Hurrican Sandy victims will pick themselves up and rebuild sooner than Katrina victims because unlike Katrina victims they didn't consider themselves 'victims' before the storm and they won't wait for someone else to come along and fix their problem!"
That would be uncalled for and disrepectful, and I would say that the intent in the above actually was to belittle and to disrespect.
However, to compare aspects of Katrina, to Sandy, or vice-versa, is in itself not disrespectful, no more than two doctors discussing the respective damages caused by a 22 and a bazooka are. Sure, aspects of both are incomparable; but there may be similarities that are worth discussing. The fact that they are different, yet discussed, doesn't necessarily mean disrespect to one or the other sufferers.
I think one of the major down-falls of our society is political correctness. People can't seem to talk critically about most things anymore. Seems there are no bad teachers anymore. No bad children. No losers and therefore no winners. You can't expect "more" from anyone, and, now, we certainly can't compare one bad event with another without those that suffered one or the other thinking we are disrespecting them.
Trust me, folks, when I INTENTIONALLY disrespect you, well, you will know it.
So my question is: What is the purpose of making comparisons of Sandy to Katrina, to Andrew, or to the Japanese Tsunami? They all happened at different times, different locations and the costs in property damage and human lives was enormous.
I am sure the reasons for comparing vary from person to person making the comparisons. Why not simply ASK them why they feel the comparison is valid/necessary to better understand what they are trying to say instead of assuming there is disrespectful intentions or inferences. You may find out you are right, the other person is an ******. You may find out they are making a good point or conclusion.
TJR