Though I cannot really relate to your statements about buying a house with loans and such, as I have not done so, as I have a deep-seated fear and hatred of debt.
I am like you. The idea of owing someone money scares the daylights out of me. I do not like car loans and if I do get one, I pay it off as soon as I can. As for a mortgage, I have two choices. Pay rent to someone and pay their mortgage for them or pay my own mortgage.
I prefer to pay my own. If I could buy a house with cash, I would do it.
But, yes, in NE Ohio in the area I live, one can own 2 acres in the country with a brick style ranch for about $120,000. The home we live in is 800 sq/ft sitting on a 90' x 90' lot close to everything. All within walking distance, if we chose to walk it. That same house in California would sell for $300,000 to $400,000. Our mortgage is only $400/month (including taxes and insurance). Utilities run another 300.00/month. Add in food, fuel for vehicles, etc of another $500.00/month, and there is a $10.00/hr job paying for all this. It can be done.
This is for a home with double the property of his neighbors, so my home value is more than theirs is for an equal house.
It can be done. Just because someone works at McDonald's making more than $10/hr does not mean they make more money. They may make more money, but they spend more to live. So in the end, they make less money.
My cousin moved to Boca Raton, Fl because of a job offer that paid more than he was making in NE Ohio. He moved back to NE Ohio because his $100,000/year paid job was worth about $35,000 at home. So he came back to NE Ohio and makes a paltry $40,000/year and has more money than he knows what to do with. (This is a gross over statement, but the point is that wages in one area have to support the living expenses in the same area.)
Tom