Caymen,
Are you serious? How is it not confusing?
Here is the way I see things:
The Bible was written by men with an agenda. Yes, I know, many say it is the innerant word of God, but that clearly isn't the case for anyone willing to read up on Bible history, and recognize the revisionist nature of the Bible. The Bible, though clearly inspired by those that claim to have heard the word of God, isn't a complete book...it is a version of what men at certain points in time wanted to include in the book for the primary purpose of furthering their religion.
So, to say that one's religious views dictate that the man is the head of household and that the woman is to be subservient need (IMHO) to simply recognize that the Bible was written by MEN. Nuff said.
My dad told me that black people are lazy, they steal, and they can't be trusted. He also told me that women aren't as smart as men and that they can't make good decisions because they are emotional. His dad no doubt told him the same thing. Just because someone you trust says something with convicition, and that many believe it to be true it doesn't make it true.
At a certain point people have to start thinking for themselves. Sure, we would like to say that we have beliefs and that our beliefs should stand the test of time. I'm all for that. But we should always be willing to question our beliefs, and as importantly question where they have come from and even if they are our own.
So, go ahead Tom. You go ahead and vote for Hillary to show how enlightened you are, then you go and tell people how they should judge Hillary not on her sex, but on her abilities...you go ahead, I am sure it will make you feel better.
The question is, how will it make your wife feel when you give all this power to females in the outside world, yet in your house, you make it clear as to WHO is in charge?
The question isn't whether or not your actions are confusing to you, or me...but will they be confusing to HER?
(Sorry to bring her into this...but ultimately this is about her...we are the men, right...the one's with the power <sarcasm>).
TJR